Friday, December 10, 2010

...lifes funny sometimes...

Life is already funny, add the world wide web and we have a completely different addition to a funny life....We all know about the traditional women's "help & advice" sections in every magazine and a million websites. But it is once in a while when you stumble upon a "help & advice" for men. I stumbled upon a ehow article that made me laugh. It was a how to get a girlfriend, dating advice for single men. If you have ever looked at a ehow article it rates difficulty, well this article rates it as easy. The other part that I found to be funny was that it literally had three steps to get a girlfriend for a single man. Really are us girls that simple? I never thought that!

Best advice I have EVER seen!
Have patience. These things take time. You can't force someone to like you, and trying to hurry things up can ruin the courtship altogether. Give him some space and don't be obsessive. Let things progress at a natural pace, or fade out of natural causes. Eventually he'll tell you one way or another whether or not he's interested in reciprocating your affection. And if he's not, don't hang around him like a lost puppy. Sometimes you might be incompatible in ways that you don't see, and sometimes a guy just isn't ready for a long term relationship. Don't take rejection too personally. It happens. Not everyone in the world is going to like you. Move on! There are other fish in the sea and if you followed the first step, you know that you're a good catch.
Keep in mind that you cannot control what other people think and do. He may be the object of your interest, but that does not create any obligation that you be his. Turn the situation around. If there was some random guy who took an interest in you, is there anything that he could do to make you like him? Probably not. You will like him or not. You will find him attractive or not. You will find him funny or not. All he can do is try to be the best person he can be, and hope that you agree. The reverse is also true. Be the best person you can be, and let it develop--or not--from there.

Sunday, November 28, 2010

When the road to home is covered with bushes..

You know when life gives you hurdles you are to get over them, well what if you don't know how?

Wanting a guy to notice you with out being "that" girl
Things to consider is what you think when you see someone, what gets your attention negative and positive. You need to take how you want to be seen, and act it out by seeing other people!

In Life
Your goal is to leave a positive impression on this person. The best way is to smile, let him see who you are. Stand with good posture and have good eye contact. These things are going to show that you are confident and that is exactly what every woman wants a man to take from it. Don't ever be afraid to go after what you want, worse case scenario is that you realize it may not be something you want after all.

At Work
Dress to impress, put together vs. bed hair, positive verse negative. Do your job you know your going to get more positive attention if your doing what you are suppose to be doing and doing it well. Ask for input without seeming stupid, it is a fine line for sure, but think about it if you ask for to check something he can check to see how awesome you are or he can teach you a new is a win win. Be a happy person, combat the normal work breeding grounds for angry feeling by being a source of cheer. (With being the happy person though comes some things to watch out for people will like you and gossip with you so try and stay Switzerland). Interact when appropriate this will show your knowledge and have him see you as person

At the bar or gym
SMILE :D It tells a guy what kind of a person you are with out having to say a thing, this is a way to say your open with out the fear of getting rejected. It is not a need for a ear to ear smile, just a small coy smile that says I am here. After a smile it is about eye contact with out being creepy!
Be sure that his attention is what you want. Don't try to get a guy to look your way, you want attention and you want to feel good about yourself.But don't be loud he is going to think your weird and not approachable! Being yourself is good but don't do something crazy to get his attention! You don't want to lead someone on like a puppy taken out for a walk. You could end up in a very awkward or uncomfortable situation.

Remember it is about you liking someone enough to want their attention, this doesn't mean you get to lose yourself in the process.Be yourself. Everyone probably says this, but it's true. No guy wants a girl that pretends like she is something she is not. Show him that you are a good friend. Listen to the music he listens to. Just don't come on too clingy. No boy wants a girl who just follows him around all day. In addition, if you want to find out more about him, don't stalk the poor guy. Just find out about him from his friends you trust. For example, ask them about his likes and dislikes, what music he is into, what concerts he goes to, if he likes anyone, etc. Be confident in yourself, and it will show that you are an amazing person. Don't be someone you're not. You want him to like you for you.

Once You Get the what

Hang out with him often but not too often ; you don't always want to be hanging around because you might look like an annoying bug that's always around and never goes away. Try to start a conversation about an interesting topic, for example, if you're at a football game, ask confidently but cutely, "Did I miss any action?". This will tell him that you want to know about the game, but also you want to get his opinion, so he will automatically talk to you about the game (or other topics) the whole game. Start slowly like a movie or party try not to make it so noticeable cause he might not be interested.
FLIRTTTTT :) best part of courting~! Do it as much as you want, but remember that too much flirting especially with other guys will likely get him to take notice, but perhaps not in a good way. Don't do too much, but not too little either. Sometimes you might look too girlie, popular, wanna-be etc. If he reacts and you don't think its real, he's just doing it because you're there and you're a girl and he thinks he can do better, but let him know he can't. If he is faking it, call his bluff and say something that makes him know you don't think he is 'all that'. For example, if he comes close, pull a face and offer him gum. This will unbalance his ego.
Start up conversations that have to do with if it's where you are or if he's talking to you. Make sure you don't go on about nothing. Definitely make sense when you talk to him. Don't twirl your hair, flick your eyelashes or giggle nonstop. He can get kind of scared and make fun of you, no matter how old you are, guys will always be the same. Be yourself. Just be who you are, that's the #1 quality guys look for in a girl.

Sunday, November 7, 2010

Be kind to your skin, it will be kind to you!

We have all heard they hype and talk about mineral make up and the benefits to a person they can have. But what does that mean to you? I will try and figure this out for you purely from my own research and experience(I am not trying to claim this to be that of an educated perspective).

There are so many lines out there that claim to be good to your skin. Well honestly there really isn't anything that is amazing for your skin, even if you don’t wear make up and go all natural you still are damaging it. It is the sad truth. But, just because there are not things that are good for it doesn't mean you have to provide more damage to it.
Liquid make up is not that amazing for your skin, it can A) concave into your pores suffocating them, B) trap your own natural oils in your skin causing acne or C)adding to much oil to your skin with its longevity formula. Liquid has the tendency to give you uneven coverage, with lines at the jaw line if not perfectly matched.
Powder is a great base make up, but isn't perfect. I love bare essentials but every line has it down falls.
Powder is messy, it can get all over your clothes if not applied correctly, there is a small chance of blotchiness. But overall powdered has more pro's than liquid. It can absorb oil, it has a longer wear and less ability to smudge. And if you opt for the natural kind you are putting less chemicals on your skin which is always a plus.

If you have troublesome skin, just make sure you are washing and mosturizing with hypo allergenic products. That is the only sure fire way to keep your skin looking good. Vitamin D mosturizers are amazing for the skin especailly if you live in not sunny parts of the world.

Eyelash's and Eyebrow's the frames to our eyes

I will be the first to admit, I have a strong obsession with eyelash's and perfect eyebrows! I think it is a dangerous obsession if not taken the right way. I use latisse which scares me, so in a search for natural ways to help my eyebrows and eyelash's reach optimal perfection I found various claims and acted upon them.

Gently rub petroleum jelly on your eyelashes. While there is no real evidence to support the claim that petroleum jelly stimulates eyelash growth, it may moisturize and condition them, thereby causing them to appear healthier.

Be gentle with your eyelash curler, you can cause trauma by using them to roughly. I have a heated eyelash curler that I am newly in love with! its from sephora and is only 12 bucks!

A good full brow is the best way to give yourself a better frame.

  Look at these celebrities with out the brows!


 The different types of brows...

How to find the perfect shape:


Friday, October 22, 2010

Now inlisting.... a great wingwoman

In a college world where (shocker!) people drink and hook-up on a regular basis, it’s always a lovely gift in disguise to have a wingwoman by your side who supports you, sets you up for success, and is your personal cheerleader.

In high school, your wingwoman would accompany you to the bathroom during lunch, share the other half of cheesy bread with you, and wait by your locker when your boyfriend left early for the skate park.

In Hollywood, a wing woman is there to support her celebrity counterparts after a whirlwind of relationship blunders and public break ups. (Look at Team Cox-Aniston for example. I can see their wingwoman relationship sprouting from the rich dirt of Hollywood and making headlines already. Thanks to the fresh divorce of Cox and Arquette. Friends fans rejoice!)

In college, your wingwoman plays a much more integral role. She’s an important element to your development as a young woman so you can get all of that partying and sexing out of your system.

Here’s how a perfect wingwoman is built in college world:

1. She will talk to ANYBODY.
This is essential. You want a woman who isn’t afraid to spark up a fun, outgoing conversation with any average Joe. You don’t want a wet blanket who stands in the corner and bites her straws in half and pouts about how loud the music is. How are you supposed to get anywhere stirring the ice cubes in your drink and trying to cheer up a wah-wah friend?

2. She is so drunk and inappropriate you always look better.
When you have a wingwoman who pounds more rail drinks than you, you can always count on her to make you look more put together and in control to passersby. Especially when she starts screaming about how much she loves the new Pink song and grinding against the wall when it blares from the DJ’s perch. You can just laugh lightly and wink at your boy toy, then hit up the dance floor and make him want it. He will be grateful he nabbed the “sober one.”

3. She knows when to walk away.
When you’re sweet talking your potential sweetheart, your wingwoman will know when to exit the scene and look for something else to sniff around. Nothing will ruin a moment more than a wingwoman who will bust into your convo with slurred quotes from The Office and googly eyes.

4. She’s willing to take one for the team.
If it’s time for her to politely bow out of the evening at 2AM and take a taxi home to re-runs of Modern Family and burnt nachos, then so be it. She should be ready and willing to end her night, even if yours is just beginning.

5. She hooks up with your hook up’s roommate…so you always stick together.
If the opportunity arises, your wingwoman should dabble in your future hook-up’s roommate. Therefore, you guys can save another taxi charge when you wake up in the morning to bail out of your situation together. Nothing is better than fried eggs and coffee with your wingwoman while discussing how you guys were so attached at the hip it was almost kinky.

6. She makes sure you’re safe but doesn’t prevent you from getting yours.
A great wingwoman will always make sure you are making the right decision. And should a not-so-desirable situation arise (only after she knows you will regret it), she will invite you for your fourth meal at Taco Bell so you have an excuse not to go back Homely John’s dorm room. With a fab wingwoman, you will never find yourself stuck in a sticky situation with someone you would have never wanted when you could see straight.

7. She grinds with you on the dance floor when you’re craving attention.
As superficial as it sounds, everybody enjoys a nice enough wingwoman to accompany your totally rad lawn mower dance move on the dance floor. She will be by your side in an instant if you crave the eyes of the cutie by the bar, so you can pop, lock, and, drop it in unison.

8. She will look hot, but not hotter than you.
What would a great wing woman be if everyone was looking at her cleavage instead of yours?

Thursday, October 21, 2010

New Directions...New Ventures

Well trying to find a purpose in this blog, I had to find things that I am passionate about to which would fuel the ability to keep this blog going. To here is to new directions: Natural, skin care, remedies, aka anything that has to do with my sought after career of aesthetics.
Since we are coming into colder months I know that there are lots of issues that comes with it. Dry skin is one of the biggest. I am not really into LOTS of moisturizers that are from stores because unfortunately when you use these you can actually be causing more irritation in your skin, the best way to approach dry skin is to attain natural means that are not pore clogging.
Winter Skin Care Tips modified from(

* Drink lots of water, fruit or vegetable juices or any other fluid to keep your skin naturally hydrated from within.
* The most important winter skin care tip would be to moisturize your skin at equal intervals throughout the day and before you go to bed. Moisturize using a oil based moisturizer or petroleum jelly to keep dry and cracked skin at bay.
* Install a humidifier at home to keep the air around you moisturized. This will help prevent winter dry skin problems.
* Protect your feet and hands from drying out by putting on woolen socks and gloves, at home and even when you venture out of home. If you are prone to irritation by woolen wear, slip on cotton gloves and socks before you put on the woolen ones.
* Do not indulge in long, hot showers which will dry your skin out further. Apply some oil to your skin prior or post bathing.
* Consume flaxseed oil or cod liver oil supplements to moisturize your skin from within.
* Use a gentle scrub or exfoliate, twice a week to get rid of all the dead skin.
* Use a sunscreen before venturing out into the winter sun, as even the winter sun can cause quite a lot of damage to the skin.
* Do not lick or bite chapped and dry lips. Always use a lip balm or apply some petroleum jelly to keep them moisturized and hydrated. Read more on dry skin care.

Winter Skin Care Remedies

* Apply some glycerin mixed with milk cream to your lips to cure and prevent chapped lips.
* Massage your hands and legs with olive oil prior to bathing. Let it stay for around 10 minutes and then wash off with a gentle soap or body wash.
* Apply a thin layer of glycerin or aloe vera gel to the face and lips, let it stay for 5 minutes and then wash off. This will keep your facial skin moisturized and hydrated. Read more on dry skin remedies for face.
* Prepare a face mask by making a paste of one ripe papaya, peach and avocado. Apply this to the face and let it stay for 5 minutes before washing it off.
* Add lavender essential oil to your bath water to prevent dry skin.
* Prepare a gentle exfoliate for your skin by mixing crystallized sugar with oatmeal. Read more on keeping skin soft in winter.

You can easily prevent winter skin problems by following the tips and remedies mentioned above. Moisturize, drinks lots of water and eat healthy to keep your skin glowing and beautiful all throughout winter.

Happy Skin equals a Happy person

When did down right hatred become something that was acceptable?!

I am so proud of the students of EWU, that protest was truly remarkable.
I can't believe some of the concepts believed by the WBC, I am all for own opinions and what not, but down right hatred toward other human beings is totally crossing the line. I can not believe that that someone or a group of someones would soul-ly basing their own beliefs on pure hatred toward other people. I was looking a the website to see what they really are about, On one of the pages it talks about stats and numbers. One of them is "0 - nanoseconds of sleep that WBC members lose over your opinions and feeeeellllliiiiiings." What the heck, you are to tell me that not a single person in your group has any feelings?!

Tuesday, October 19, 2010

Who thinks of some of these things?!

Some stories that you find out there on the internet can just be sooo far fetched with the titling and story lines. With the internet getting to multi faucet, you almost can find anything online!" Take that article when I was first looking I was like ohhh that seems sooo far fetched, noooo the website is actually something that makes sense.
Wbat about this article...>1=32078" its like DUH, We all know that. If you didn't have friends, you wouldn't go out, if you don't go out you will not spend money....

Wednesday, October 6, 2010

Life flies by to fast to do nothing at all....

This was a truely sad story, but a common reality for many, that I came across. I just hope people dont take life for granite I know I find myself wishing I would have said or done something and didn't.

10th grade

As I sat there in English class, I stared at the girl next to me. She was my so called "best friend". I stared at her long, silky hair, and wished she was mine. But she didn't notice me like that, and I knew it. After class, she walked up to me and asked me for the notes she had missed the day before and handed them to her. She said "thanks" and gave me a kiss on the cheek. I wanted to tell her, I want her to know that I don't want to be just friends, I love her but I'm just too shy, and I don't know why.

11th grade
The phone rang. On the other end, it was her. She was in tears, mumbling on and on about how her love had broke her heart. She asked me to come over because she didn't want to be alone, so I did. As I sat next to her on the sofa, I stared at her soft eyes, wishing she was mine. After 2 hours, one Drew Barrymore movie, and three bags of chips, she decided to go to sleep. She looked at me, said "thanks" and gave me a kiss on the cheek. I want to tell her, I want her to know that I don't want to be just friends, I love her but I'm just too shy, and I don't know why.

Senior year
The day before prom she walked to my locker. My date is sick" she said; he's not going to go well, I didn't have a date, and in 7th grade, we made a promise that if neither of us had dates, we would go together just as "best friends". So we did. Prom night, after everything was over, I was standing at her front door step. I stared at her as she smiled at me and stared at me with her crystal eyes. I want her to be mine, but she isn't think of me like that, and I know it. Then she said "I had the best time, thanks!" and gave me a kiss on the cheek. I want to tell her, I want her to know that I don't want to be just friends, I love her but I'm just too shy, and I don't know why.

Graduation Day
A day passed, then a week, then a month. Before I could blink, it was graduation day. I watched as her perfect body floated like an angel up on stage to get her diploma. I wanted her to be mine, but she didn't notice me like that, and I knew it. Before everyone went home, she came to me in her smock and hat, and cried as I hugged her. Then she lifted her head from my shoulder and said, "you're my best friend, thanks" and gave me a kiss on the cheek. I want to tell her, I want her to know that I don't want to be just friends, I love her but I'm just too shy, and I don't know why.

A Few Years Later
Now I sit in the pews of the church. That girl is getting married now. I watched her say "I do" and drive off to her new life, married to another man. I wanted her to be mine, but she didn't see me like that, and I knew it. But before she drove away, she came to me and said "you came!". She said "thanks" and kissed me on the cheek. I want to tell her, I want her to know that I don't want to be just friends, I love her but I'm just too shy, and I don't know why.

Years passed, I looked down at the coffin of a girl who used to be my "best friend". At the service, they read a diary entry she had wrote in her high school years. This is what it read: I stare at him wishing he was mine, but he doesn't notice me like that, and I know it. I want to tell him, I want him to know that I don't want to be just friends, I love him but I'm just too shy, and I don't know why. I wish he would tell me he loved me! `I wish I did too...` I thought to my self, and I cried.

Wednesday, September 15, 2010

...Be the best verison of yourself and get to the finish line

ONE. Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.
TWO. Marry a man/woman you love to talk to. As you get older, their conversational skills will be as important as any other.
THREE. Don't believe all you hear, spend all you have or sleep all you want.
FOUR. When you say, 'I love you,' mean it.
FIVE. When you say, 'I'm sorry,' look the person in the eye.
SIX. Be engaged at least six months before you get married.
SEVEN. Believe in love at first sight.
EIGHT. Never laugh at anyone's dreams. People who don't have dreams don't have much.
NINE.... Love deeply and passionately. You might get hurt but it's the only way to live life completely.
TEN.. In disagreements, fight fairly. No name calling.
ELEVEN. Don't judge people by their relatives.
TWELVE. Talk slowly but think quickly.
THIRTEEN. When someone asks you a question you don't want to answer, smile and ask, 'Why do you want to know?'
FOURTEEN. Remember that great love and great achievements involve great risk.
FIFTEEN. Say 'bless you' when you hear someone sneeze.
SIXTEEN. When you lose, don't lose the lesson.
SEVENTEEN. Remember the three R's: Respect for self; Respect for others; and Responsibility for all your actions.
EIGHTEEN. Don't let a little dispute injure a great friendship.
NINETEEN. When you realize you've made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.
TWENTY. Smile when picking up the phone. The caller will hear it in your voice .
TWENTY-ONE. Spend some time alone.

Saturday, September 4, 2010

.:.I think some need to re-learn how to be a friend.:.

I think the more I hang out with an awesome friend I learn how much some of the other ones are not as good. Side note I thought it would be very beneficial to learn/educate myself on the true logical analysis of things not just me ranting. aka searching "how to maintain a friendship" I found this great article that gives a "how to".. I found this one from called How to Maintain a Friendship,

Most people go through life with a handful of real friends, and a crate full of acquaintances. A friendship, like any other relationship, takes time to cultivate and build. Like a seedling, it is planted, cared for, fed nutrients, observed and appreciated as it grows into something flourishing and beautiful. In order to grow the very best friendship, it is necessary to put in the time and effort to maintain a friendship.

Just in case you read this and wonder if you are a friend or acquaintance, take these steps they explain for some interest of inquiry.

#1Be an equal contributor to the friendship. Make sure your intentions are one of a giving nature, and not one of expectation. This means you are willing to give to the relationship so that it grows, and that the giving should be mutual. You do not want a one-sided friendship where you are constantly giving of yourself, while the other person sucks all your efforts dry without contributing.
#2Learn to listen. Sometimes, a friend is not looking for an opinion or advice, but rather a sounding board to vent to. They often know what they need to do and have to do, but being able to express an uninterrupted thought may help them arrive at a more positive way to handle the situation. Of course, there will be times where a friend will elicit your non-judgmental advice, and then you want to give them the responsible words that will help them through the circumstances.
#3Inspire and encourage your friend. A true friend will be the other person's best cheerleader. They will encourage them to make responsible decisions and motivate them to be the best person they can be.
#4Be tactful when pointing out a friend's mistakes. You have to realize that they may not be aware of the mistake they made or may have felt justified in what they did. Use a good example, be sincere and honest, but do not harp on the situation till you are blue in the face. You will both wind up walking away with hurt feelings and a possible loss of friendship.
#5Try not to be a clingy, needy and controlling friend. A healthy friendship needs breathing room, and a quality friendship will withstand the test of time and distance. Sure, you may enjoy spending time with this person, but you do not want to stifle the friendship by being with them all the time.
#6Make sure you are reliable and can be counted on. In other words, saying you will be somewhere, means you will be there, and, when you cannot be, you are courteous enough to contact them ahead of time.
#7Know when to agree to disagree. It is okay to have differences of opinion, because that is what makes each person in the friendship unique and interesting. But, arguing over little things that are really insignificant and petty can and will destroy the friendship.
#8Learn to keep private information private. When a friend confides in you with private information, it should remain between you two and not be blabbed to anyone else. Unless, the private information is something that leads you to believe the friend is in danger or in a harmful situation, then you should help them seek out help. This may involve seeking the advice of a third party, a professional that can help you best assist the friend.
# 9 Share and celebrate successes, milestones and accomplishments, as well as be the shoulder for the not so good times. Who better to share the good and the bad with than a friend?

I think the best part of this article was that in the Tips and Warnings was: When a friend brings more negative energy to a friendship, the relationship may become toxic. In this case, you have to know when to let a friendship go.

I think there are just things a person needs to realize, when things are lost they are just going to be lost. I guess you live and learn in life. It was a good ride while it lastest, maybe some day you will realize I was the best friend you will have.

To Read more: How to Maintain a Friendship |

Tuesday, August 31, 2010

ughhhh I wish it was easy to just say what I want and what I feel.

“I try to talk to you, but I don't know what to say. I am afraid you don't want me to say anything. So I don't. But inside of me there are words waiting to come out.And tell you how I feel-like how I miss you. And how I need you in my life. And especially how much I want you.But those words may forever stay in my heart-locked inside.Sometimes I wonder if there are words locked inside you too... but I'll never know.”

That quote sums up my life right now! The concept of saying what is on my mind is often weighed by the ability to be rejected. I wish I could say you know I really like you and wish for things to progress. But just even typing that makes me feel awkward. The worst part of this is guys don't get that subtle hints. Like lingering before you part ways, or sometimes brushing past each other, or the simple act of flirting. If I was "that" kinda girl to where I would initiate I am sure life would be simple but I like to be sought after, I will do a certain amount of seeking but all in all I want to be sought! It drives me crazy because I see potential with certain people but I know if someone doesn't see the greatness in me than they aren't worth it, but what if they just aren't looking right now to see it. Also, what about those guys who you are just attracted to that are your opposite, like I am outgoing and he isn't but we can actually have a conversation, and honestly they are usually the best ones. What about that line of friends and more. How do you break that line? I mean a great relationship comes from being friends. I have great things happen in my life and I want to tell this person right away, but how do I know they are going to want to hear it, and share in the awesomeness. I mean friends do enjoy that but someone who is truly vested in you enjoys it more. Then there are those guys who had their hearts broken, they are like damaged goods that you wish you could fix but you know that they will not fix until they want to be fixed.
Bottom line, I like you, I like that you are the first person I want to share something with , being with makes time fly, when I am looking at you all I can think about is how much I want you to lean in to kiss me, I even sometimes contemplate doing it my self but than I just can't, I want you to want me too... I just wish you could see that I care about you a lot.

Why is it so easy to put that into words indirectly, heaven forbid I say that to a person until I know how they feel.... ohhhhh tonight reminded me how I felt, if only I could actually tell them.

Friday, July 30, 2010

The Perspective Life

Life throws the most awful of turns to really make a person evaluate themselves and things in their lives. In times of hardship there are 3 things a person wants, other than being alone, one is a boy to snuggle with and know that he really cares about whats going on because he truly cares about you, two going out with your girl friends to distract the be-jesus out of you, and third your family to settle you.

Well when your family is equally sharing in the events and your girl friends either are MIA or have done all they can do, the last thing to turn to is a boy. Now, I am a very independent girl and never have nor never will be solely dependent on a man in her life to feel worth. But at times like this I would love for there to be that one guy that will let you put your head on his shoulder while he plays with your hair and will let you cry, talk or do nothing until you feel better. There is that light at the end of the tunnel when you get just the inkling that the guy you chat it up with actually cares(random things that show it isn't a one sided friendship, which sometimes I wonder about this certain person). These are the times when I wish for a main squeeze ;), like when you need someone who truly whole heartily cares and would do anything with you just to be with you. No distance is to far and nothing is to much of a hurdle to figure out. But, other times it is not needed, like I am not one of those girls who needs a guy with her all the time, I like to be able to have them around sometimes, I dont like anyone to stress about when they are going to hang out. I think it all should come naturally*. *Now naturally only occurs once you have branded yourself with that title.

That gets me to my next random thought of the day, random to you yes to me no, I was watching TV and it sparked thought. If your hanging out with a guy who has been a friend but you want more. WAIT for the guy to make the move. Girls have an easier time forgiving if a guy tries more than friends and misses the boat the girl is floating on. But guys, oh gosh guys dont know how to handle themselves if a girl acts out to be more than friends and it isnt mutual.

Oh random...who the heck drives around with their cat in the car? I totally saw that today I was like WTF mate.

PET PEEVE of the day: Dont initiate conversation via anything and than quit out with out saying something to signify you are not going to respond anymore, especially if the conversation was meaningful.

Quote of the day:
When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight. ~Kahlil Gibran

Saturday, July 17, 2010

Irony that we call life

I hate how little events are the reason I write in this blog. I wish that I was the type of person to write in blogs just for the heck of it, not only to vent in a round about way. I think my venting is to show whomever is reading it that they are not alone. Anyways tonight is the first night in a long time that I have gone out party style, and tonight was the first time that I really seriously got irritated at girls that I assume to be my best friends. I think the reason I got the most irritated was that I assumed a friend would save a girl from a situation they weren't enjoying but unfortunately I didn't seem to find that to be true. I get the most irritated because I know if roles were reversed I would stop flirting with any sex pot man to help a friend out a situation. Unfortunately for me my whole evening was ruined by one sleezy, drunk, fondling dude. It is great for this dude to think that I was gorgeous, but he was just so slimy that I couldn't even try to make the situation go well. I am sorry dude but trying to grab my booty and boobs and licking ur fingers in a awkward way are sure as hell not going to get me to come dance with you. Oh and I am sorry that I don't find be sexually danced on while you are a happy guy to be something enjoyable.

These events occur time and time again and after every incident I still find myself re living the same scenario later. I think it is because I hope that the next time will be different or that my true friend will shine through. and everytime I am just let down even more. I am sorry that I am not about meeting guys at bars because the kinda guys you meet at bars are not the ones you want in your life long term. I am sorry I dont like getting wasted and losing all my common sense. I am sorry that I like to have a little fun while being sober and not feel like the odd one because sober is a better mindset on me. I am sorry that I feel like there other ways to meet a future husband outside the bar arena. I am sorry I love girls night out, but I dont like the girls sometimes.I just wish things could be different.

Pet peeve of the day: Drunk guys/girls that think because they are drunk all common/social expectations no longer apply to them. Yes making out drunk at the bar is still the same as doing it sober.

Quote of the day:"You can make more friends in two months by becoming really interested in other people, than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you."
-- Bernard Meltzer

Monday, July 5, 2010

....and with this things really do change....

I haven't posted in a bit. I guess life happens faster than my fingers can type. I spent this last weekend for the fourth with friends from high school. It saddens me that every summer it gets worse, the gap just keeps growing between us. I was sitting in the back seat on the ride home and realized how different it all is. I mean it has always been them and me not us three. It comes with the territory of going away for college I guess. I just think there is such a divide now that I it is more stressful and emotionally tiring to try and mend this gap.
This weekend was filled with realizations for me. I mean it was quite serene out on the beach. I realized there is one guy that I am all for, but I think he doesn’t either see it or is just too shy. Either way I am not the kind of girl to wait but I am the kind to have them vested in the back of my mind. But I am done worrying, I am just going to do me. If they don’t like it than who really cares because living with my mantra at the end of the night you only have to answer to your true self.
Ohh if you are feeling philanthropic check out I am one of the honoree’s also you can donate under “nadina’s beacon of hope”
Pet Peeve of the day: you health nuts out there, preach to yourself. People don’t need to hear your constant opinions on what things are good and what things are bad. To each their own. It is so annoying to listen to an argument over organic blueberries and store bought blueberries. Get over yourself. Some have their own way of enjoying life!
Words to get you through:People grow through experience if they meet life honestly and courageously. This is how character is built.
Thats all for now...ADD has set in :)

Thursday, June 24, 2010 moves faster then the ability to document it....

Ahhh I thought college flew by, I think life in general is flying by. First, I found out that I am one of the 2010 Honoree's for the pacific Northwest chapter of the Arthritis Foundation, aka Jingle Bell Run. If you don't know what that is, look it up. :) Back to my point, you needed the background information to understand some parts of this. I found myself driving home from work the day I found out, crying than laughing than crying. I think life just came full circle for me at that moment, while I was in the car I found myself asking is this what a emotional break feels like? I was crying not out of sadness but happiness and the feeling of being so blessed. Than laughing at myself for feeling the need to cry. It was quite the mess of emotions. It was truly a sight to see. There was something else I saw today that I was baffled by..... oh well...another blog.

Pet peeve of the day: If you are talking to me on facebook, or any of these online chatting things, don't just peace out while in the middle of conversation. By far the most annoying thing. I have quite a few things I find annoying but this is most definitely one of them.

Words to get you through the day:

"I'm selfish, impatient, and insecure. I make mistakes. I am out of control and at times, hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you don't deserve me at my best." - Marilyn Monroe

Thursday, June 17, 2010 form opinions....can opinions form events?

I haven't written on here in what feels like a long time, I have so many random thoughts going on, try and keep up :)
In that last few days I have done a lot of driving! I hate commutes! I hate drivers, I love traffic, I hate stoplights that last 3 seconds, on green of course. I hate fake promises, I love my family, they can be a bit odd but that is what I love the most about them. I love going on adventures, I hate getting lost, I love a full tank of gas with my windows down and the heat on, I hate when windows are broken. I know after reading this you probably think I am the most wish-washy of a person there is, but trust me think about each thing and you will too think the way I do.
I have spent some time with my older family, ever put yourself in their thought process? It is crazy to think about all the things that have changed over the course of their life time, the oldest one I have is almost 81 years old. They are still fascinated by the idea of digital cameras, let alone digital anything. Laptops freak them out and texting on cellphones is like performing some sort of surgery. But I must give my grandpa mad props, he is 75 and he texts me like no buddies business, after he puts his glasses on of course.
Ok, you know those really orange looking girls and even some guys, they look orange and think they look tan therefore they think they are just the cats meow?! Those types of people disgust me. Like I tan, but I tan because it makes me look like the middle eastern than I am.
That is all for now...enough computer screen for me.

Thursday, June 10, 2010

..:..All that is good must come to an end.:......:. I am just not ready yet..:..

With graduation just a day away I really have started to think hard about what I am leaving and what I am going to. I spent the past 4 years here, learning all of the socially acceptable things for a college girl. Now I am going to have to learn all new things that are acceptable things for an adult woman to do. Only in College can you go out 5 nights a week and be considered normal. Only in college can you not have a boyfriend and be considered cool. In college towns you are more likely to know the people you meet at the bar, no awkward creeps, well not as many. For me I am really bummed about leaving because I am not ready to leave this world of college. All the aspect that come along with being a college student. I enjoy my bartender, I mean ask anyone he is awesome but he knows how to treat me and my girls when we come, I am not going to find that in the adult world. I am not going to find this out there because I hope to goodness I am not frequenting a bar enough to get to the bartender like we have here in college. My sisters, friends, and those who support me. It is hard to leave them because they have either taught me a lot, I have taught them a lot, or they believe in me. I am however excited to venture out and meet new people, I am so super excited to move on and not have to homework anymore. It is such a bitter-sweet time for me right now, I don't really know how to react to any of it.

My family comes tomorrow, I am so excited,I tried explaining my family to some people and all I could say was they are amazing. I mean it is true I am sooo entirely blessed to have the family I have. They are all coming, I mean my parents, siblings, grandparents, and one cousin. I mean I am the first in the family lineage to graduate college. It is something worth traveling too. I am just so excited to see what they do, how they react, I am wondering how long it will take for my mother to have water works, I wonder if my dad will shed a tear because I am his baby girl graduating or his tears of joy of not having to pay tuition anymore. I guess we shall find out...

ahhhh life comes at you fast, put on a helmet and hold on because this is a ride you can't stop.

Monday, June 7, 2010

...I wish there was more time...I like this feeling....

I got to a thinking you know when you start hanging out with a new guy all the new things happen. The greatness you feel when he texts you back, when you have the slightest physical contact you get giddy. But with all the good and awesome feelings comes those nerves. For me leaving in less than a week, I hate that I met him now. Although, I am not and was not looking for anything solid, I never, ever stop the idea of anything because you never know what could come from people you meet. Well that sounded so cheesy but is soo true. But anyways back to those uneasy feelings. When you invite them into your place of residence, what are they expecting, what do they think you are thinking. I get in trouble a lot because of how much of a flirt/nice person I am. I think I lead people on. So many things are hard to just enjoy because we women over-think things...often...Like when they put their arm around you, you think about how is your head to heavy, is their arm in a comfortable position, and it goes on on. What about when they spend the night, you wonder if they are uncomfortable, if they expect more than just a darn good cuddle session or what. There is also the moments when you are wishing for something to happen but you don't want to be "that girl" that initiates something that they didn't want, so all you can do is sit there and think over and over again, just hoping they will. I will admit when that moment finally occurs it almost is more enjoyable than if it was to just happen. Enough with the physical over-thinking moments what about the god for awful texts or phone calls. Those moments where you also don't want to be that girl. So the first time we started hanging out, I didn't want to be that girl that texts to soon, but two nights in a row of hanging out all night long I think I am allowed to text. I mean I hope so.. Well that is my story for now...I have a lot of life to go live now....yikes

Saturday, June 5, 2010

....I dont only hate the way you look at me...I secretly love it

I am Sorority both literally and destined for such a life, not in the stereotypical way but in the way that I am meant to be apart of something bigger. I learned this over time and I know the nay sayers out there will be shaking their heads in disagreement, or even do that little snicker of haha every sorority girl says this... but you do not know unless you have been a true sorority girl. Any ways what I was getting at was in my last years of this sorority life interactions I have witnessed soooo many different types of hook-ups, so you would think I would be both a expert in them personally and how to give advice to those who do them. I find myself wondering what kinds of girls do some of the things I have heard, in regards to profiling. I mean I have acted a fool sometimes, who hasn't but I have and always will be acting in a way that no one could ever deem me as "that" girl. If you could put my name in a sentence with a negative phrase that has "that girl" in it, I don't want to be there.

Sunday, May 30, 2010

It is all about the Perspective

Often people are stuck asking themselves what is reality and what is fantasy. For most situations it is all about perspective. I know I find myself doing it on many occasions.
A guy you like who you seldom see, seems to use the same old excuse when you finally come into town. Let me paint a better a picture. This guy is everything you want in a guy minus a few flaws, but hey no one is perfect. Every time you get a chance to this man it is seriously awesome, you get those butterfly nerves that you haven't felt in awhile, the hours with him just seem to fly by. Fantasy world of mine says he is in the same exact boat as you when it comes to being head over heels with you, he really is tell you the truth about why he cant see you. Reality is, you should probably stopping putting the effort and realize he just isn't into you, and his "excuses" really are that he doesn't have a pair of his own to tell you the truth with.

I saw sex and the city 2, let me just tell you after a movie like that I feel like my life is not glamours enough, nor is it entertaining enough. I want to live a 1/16th of how they live their lives. I want to travel to Abu Dabi(more reasons than the movie). Ohhh speaking of more reasons, random, during the movie they speak Arabic, I wish for the purpose of entertainment that would subtitle what they say in Arabic. I found it to be quite anecdotal being able to understand what they were saying and wondering why they didn't subtitle because it most certainly added piazza to the scene.

Song Man in the Mirror, by MJ has to be the most amazing song ever! I know it sounds so dorky but seriously it is quite a uplifting subliminal motivational song. I mean I often find myself belting out the lyrics when it is coming thru the speakers, but a few hours later the lyrics are stuck in my head and I find myself singing to my self motivation words, "I am starting with the man in the mirror, I am asking him to change his ways". It really makes you think, what are these new songs subliminally sending to us?!

Saturday, May 29, 2010 I ever cross your mind...I want too

Dang 5 hour amazing car ride with the same song playing every few tracks. Songs totally get stuck in my head.

Have you ever had this happen: There are times where you meet someone and just wish they would see the awesomeness that you posses because you of course, are an excellent judge of character and know you two would hit it off? I swear I run into that more times than I can count. You talk with this person often enough to really get a feel for what kinda of a person they are and you just know. You know because well you know yourself and you get to know them and just can feel it. I think my biggest problem with this is because I was in a long relationship, I always find myself looking for a relationship that picks up right where the last one left. That my darlings is a dear impossible thing to have happen. Speaking of a last relationships, there is nothing more awkward than jogging by your ex's house and him walking out... Jogging late evening looking utterly horrible. Isn't it always the girls best idea to see the ex when they look the most amazing! dang me and my luck! blah....I got the back home writers block.....

I most seriously run out of things that I find to be amazing to write about

Thursday, May 27, 2010

Words for thought....

It is so dramatic how weather can effect a persons mood. On a sunny awesome day that person cutting you off doesn't get as aggravating as it would on a rainy day.

Watching Tyra today, because the weather sucks...Barsexual really?! Is there partysexual?! This girl is trying to say that she does it for her and gets offended that guys only see them as a piece of ass not a wine and dine them kinda girls. Um no way! A guy sees two girls making out at the bar, what do you want them to think. Hey I really want to take that girl out and have an awesome conversation with them. Ya, that doesn't go through their heads, nice try. You are not going to be finding mister right doing that, you will get attention from all the mister wrongs missy.

Ok, Good morning America, Thank you for doing a piece on skin cancer and tanning beds. Frankly, those who tan, already know there are issues that come with it. We are not naive, those who chose to tan in tanning beds it is because they aren't getting the natural tan. Tell me how people in places that get sun more months of the year than rain don't have cancer but yet we stress about those who get no sun and use tanning beds?! Is everyone determined to be either pale as vampire( maybe twilight was a secret PSA that says pale is the new sexy) or orange....I don't like these choices. I think I will be taking my chances on skin cancer.

Everyone is doing it...why not jump on that bandwagon?!

Blogging, I thought who would want to blog, let alone read anything I had to blog about. But than, Epiphany moment, who cares what everyone else thinks. If you don't like overt your eyes. I always have things I am thinking about and wish to say, but most the time they dont fit the criteria for the current conversation, or it isn't appropriate to say outloud. I realized today that there are just somethings in life that you need to have happen to consider your life to have been lived. The worst part is the list continuing, I am not talking about a bucket list, it is more of a quality life list. I think there are things to do and things you want to do. I want to compile this list, seeing that I am graduating, it is about time to get the most out of my life in the adult world that is. I have lived amazingly in my college and pre college years. I feel very lucky.