Wednesday, November 23, 2011

When love might not be enough

Whether it is be your choice or fates choice, you can't help who you fall in love with... but families seem to think there is a divine decision that they get to play a part of. It is the most self esteem squishing moment when you find out that your loved ones family might not be fond of you, or think you are the right match. Because in your eyes and your loved ones eyes you both are perfect for each other which very well could be the case but marrying the love of your life means marrying their family.... I was out last night talking to some drunk girl at the bar and she was talking about a very similar situation that I am in. Her husbands parents were not fond of her despite how good of a girl she is, she just didn't fit the family mold. As a female this is SO disheartening because we as women want everyone to like us, especially our husbands mother!!! Her advice to me was stop caring, if your husband has chosen you and wants to spend the rest of his life with you, don't worry about the parents-in-law, in the long run they are going to see how happy you make their son, and if they can't love you for that... they aren't worth trying to make love you. The more women I talk to about parents-in-law not like the newest addition or the speaking of bring these people into family the more common I find it.. I am so glad that I am not anomaly in this situation... I am merely an addition to the tons and tons of women who have to deal with it... All I can do is promise to not give a reason for them to not like me, but I will not change who I am to make them like me...
On top of knowing that his family may not be my biggest cheerleaders in wanting to marry their son, I find out that my father is basically feeling the same way his father feels... There is no winning in love I guess.... it all comes down to hoping and praying that love will be enough to get through the tough times because we both know that love has gotten us this far... who says it won't keep on going for the next 50-100 years..... Love conquers all, I believe in love therefore I believe in its power to overcome even the most difficult of obstacles.....

1 comment:

  1. Love alone is never enough. It takes compassion, commitment and selflessness. If you've found someone special, and you two bring out these traits in one another, THAT is how you make it.

    I've been where you are. Remember that this is YOUR life. These are YOUR choices. And YOUR happiness is what's at stake. As women, we often put the needs/wants of others ahead of our own. I believe there are two situations in life that require us to be selfish in order to make right decisions -- career and love. You do what is right for you. All the rest of it will fall into place.

    Good luck!


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