Fairy tales, stories of boy meets girl; girl falls in love with boy..happily ever after. A child grows up with these ideas, concepts and expectations. Then girls wonder why they just don't seem to be finding that "perfect" man. Definitions of perfection of course changes for each individual and even as a person ages. I most certainly have different levels of what I found ideal in a man 5 years ago to now. Now, finding someone that I can converse with, see every day and not be sick of them, sit and just listen to them talk to other people is something that I like. I mean hearing a person talk about something they are passionate about is truly amazing. I think each level of perfection changes based on the person before. I mean I know that what I find perfect now comes from what was lacking in my last.
You know that feeling when you get a text from that person that you just love to hear from? Nothing tops that feeling. I mean there are the people you get so nervous to hang out with because it is stressful, and then there are the people you get the butterflies to see because of how you feel. There is even that moment where you don't even care if it will turn into anything because you are perfectly content just being with them and would hate to lose that at all.
It is funny, you hear all those quotes about what to find in a guy:
“Find a guy who calls you beautiful instead of hot, who calls you back when you hang up on him, who will lie under the stars and listen to your heartbeat, or will stay awake just to watch you sleep... wait for the boy who kisses your forehead, who wants to show you off to the world when you are in sweats, who holds your hand in front of his friends, who thinks you're just as pretty without makeup on. One who is constantly reminding you of how much he cares and how lucky his is to have you.... The one who turns to his friends and says, 'that's her.'”
I made my own version:
Find a guy who calls you habbibi instead of baby, who texts you just to tell you something random, who will sit with you while you want to do nothing and not complain, wait for the guy who doesn't kiss on the first date, wait for the guy who doesn't care if you look like a scrub in public, someone who makes your heart go faster and slower all at the same time, wait for the guy you can spend forever just listening to, wait for a guy who understands you, wait for guy who loves your passion as much as you love theirs, wait for a guy who intrigues you, most importantly wait for a guy who lets you be the best you can be.Women do two things when it comes to the perfect guy. A lot of women think about these things and often just settle for something less, why do we do that to ourselves. Others have the perfect thing and don't show what they want from it for fear of rejection. It is like being stuck between a rock and hard place, you don't want to seem to clingy nor do you want the opportunity to slip by. Or a woman will get matched up with this perfect guy, but with that title comes the fact he is probably not a player there for is a shyyy guy, and that in its self can sabotage a relationship before you know it.
There is just so much more I could write about this, but I figure someone who agrees knows all I could write and someone who disagrees; you at some point in your life will agree and understand....
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